Most of my family and friends know that I go to bed early and so I rarely receive phone calls after 9pm.  Well, a few weeks ago I was woken up by my cell phone buzzing after 10pm and saw that it was my mom calling.  I answered only because I knew she would be calling for a reason.  She had some sad news about a family member who has just been down on their luck for a while now.  It seems that this family member is continually being knocked down (thankfully, it’s not health related bad news).  This phone conversation had both my mom and I in tears as we just could not grasp why my family keeps being dealt these blows.  My mom was also rambling on and on about my “illness”, how “sick” I was and how she felt so horrible that she couldn’t handle accompanying me to my chemo treatments.  A lil side note:  I never felt “ill” or “sick”, but I let my mom have her moment and unload on me.

I hung up with my mom and immediately went downstairs to cry my eyes out to my husband.  I was also just so confused as to why bad things happen to good people.  A few days prior, I was frantic because I couldn’t find our stamps.  We rarely send mail unless it is cards.  I didn’t tell my husband at the time, but I needed a stamp because I felt compelled to send a note to someone I’ve never met who lives across the country.  It is too long of a story to go into how I “know” this person or even their address, but this was just another example of a good person being dealt a bad hand and I wanted to reach out to let him know that I was rooting for him from thousands of miles away.  Similarly, I have a dear friend who has endured a lot over the past year and I have often felt mad about everything she was going through.  I think that phone conversation with my mom just put me over the edge and I was feeling exhausted and frustrated.

I know that if life was perfect, it would also be boring.  Reaching rock bottom forces us all to be humble and thankful for the good stuff.  I feel exceptionally thankful and fortunate for a blissful 10 days that I just spent with my husband.  Our vacation was our reward to ourselves for enduring a rough patch in life.  It was a well deserved reward.  Our vacation happened to have wrapped around our wedding anniversary.  What could be better than celebrating our special day in paradise?  I remember sitting next to Brian one night and just talking about how blessed we are.  We have a wonderful bond with each other, decent jobs (and health insurance!), our health and most importantly family and friends that are just awesome good people!   Despite grad school stress, cancer, a small house fire/basement flood, the unexpected passing of our dog and all the other challenges that have come our way over the past few years, I do not think I have ever felt more grateful or appreciative in my life!

I might do another post to re-cap all of the fun we had on our vacation.  But for now, here are a few of my favorite pictures!

Trunk Bay on island of St.John…This was my favorite beach!

Check out my hair – it is growing fast!

Our anniversary celebration was a sail and snorkel tour aboard Simplicity! We especially enjoyed the furry four legged crew member – Hinckley!

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2 Responses to Thankful

  1. T-Bone says:

    Pretty dress Mrs. Milam!

  2. Laura says:

    What a wonderful post, Alexis. It’s so great to find reasons to be thankful…even in the midst of life’s challenges. So good you can do that! (BTW: also loved your post on healthy changes – and hope to write several posts that’ll springboard off yours. Great idea and wonderful to share with others and get even more information sharing that way!)

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